Have to agree! I waited 3 1/2 mo for an item from china before ebay would finally make the seller refund my money. On the other hand, as a U.S. seller, ebay penalizes me if the sold item doesn't arrive to my customer in 3 days or less, and the customer can expect a refund within 10 days.
But who said life was fair, anyhow!
Also, we are partly to blame, since many times I find myself ordering something from a china seller who has the lowest price. These items sometimes even state a delivery date 2 weeks to months off, and we of course hope for the 2 week end of that time frame.
I noticed an engine auction I recently won from Jin on ebay had a delivery date of up to months away, but of course it arrived in under 10 days. So there are reputable sellers from China.
But I have to agree with your assesment that ebay really doesn't care about anything but those who bring them the most income.
crazydoug